Your baby is going through one of her first emotional milestones — stranger anxiety.

Children this age become very clingy and anxious around new and even familiar people and may cry and get upset if approached by a stranger, or well known family member.

Advise others not to head in right away. Your child clearly needs space and they need to respect your child’s wishes. Have them back off and allow your child to make the first move with eye contact. They must take it slow. Gentle movements will produce less anxiety than sudden ones.

To calm your child down, hold your child in your arms. Cuddle, kiss or make your child happy with a tickle if you can. Try to have your child laughing.

If your child refuses to be held by a friend or relative, try a slow desensitization process.

1) First, work on making your child comfortable in your arms while the other person (whom the child does not take too easily to) is around.

2) Now, have that person talk and play with your child while you hold her from a safe distance.

3) Then, hand your child over to the other person for a short time and stay close.

4) Finally, try to leave the room for a few minutes, and see how it goes. Speak to your child as you go.

5) If your child bawls, try again. Go in and out of the room and eventually, your child will be secure in the knowledge that even though you’re not around at the moment, you’ll always return shortly.

You don’t have to avoid being around people or introducing your child to new faces. Your child will benefit from getting used to being around people other than parents and family members. Your child needs your patience and understanding to get through this very important stage of development.

I suggest your nanny take your child out to programs, the early years.

Also, you must try not to run to your child every time your child calls. Take your time. Allow your child to see you for a minute before you take your child back into your arm.

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