baby-17346_1280“It’ll keep you alive for another 10 years if you get yourself a laugh once a day: either provoke it, or look around in the wildest laboratory in the world, the public.”― Jerry Lewis

For those of you alive and old enough to have witnessed Jerry Lewis on screen, you would have to agree this gentleman knew how to laugh and create laughter. Some of us are naturally born clowns, and/or naturally see the humour in just about everything. For some others, it may take a bit of effort for sure. When times are challenging us to be the best we can be, we sometimes forget to laugh. We may even look around at others laughing so easily and conclude it’s been a while for us. But laughter IS natural, and necessary.

I recently had part of an evening on my own and decided to treat myself to a comedy at home. This movie was suggested by an older gentleman client of mine, who found it to be very light and humorous. The movie, “Blended”, with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore, had him see that he too, had been taking notice of the serious side of life, and not balancing it with the lighter side. Given the opportunity to have some time to myself, I chose to see what he saw. I found myself laughing unabashedly and found that my mood had indeed been affected. I felt light, free and the rest of my evening was spent with a friend, talking and laughing about life. Perhaps my mood affected my friend as well in a light and merry way.

This movie and its characters may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but there is a movie out there that can instil this lightness and contentment in anyone. If not a movie, perhaps some time with a close friend, an activity like trampoline, stand up comedy, dancing, painting faces with or tickling your kids…give it to yourself to laugh, laugh, laugh. And notice the impact on your mood and the mood of others. This gift to yourself is paid forward to others. That in and of itself, feels really good.

Here is a link to a youtube video, to start your journey into more laughter.

Best Babies Laughing Video Compilation 2012


oup.vis3_0231.benrubil73Lillian Benrubi graduated from York University with a BA in Psychology and then went on to her Masters In Social Work at U of T for two years, graduating with MSW in 1992.  She is registered with the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers and is an Associate to Psychologist Dr. Dan Dalton.  She has provided counselling/psychotherapy formally since 1989, helping others deal with very painful, stressful and confusing situations such as loss/grief, trauma, divorce/separation, sexuality, addictions, developmental/learning disabilities, etc.  She also provides life coaching where applicable.

Lillian has been driven toward her goal to be a therapist since she was 13 years old, having been touched and inspired by mentors around her, as well as her healing impact on others.  With the added benefit of life challenges along the way, Lillian has the added personal experience of overcoming these challenges, and skilfully seeing the opportunities available to herself and everyone.  Lillian practices psychotherapy as both a personal and professional expression.